Start Here: Self-Compassion

The answer to everything could be SELF-COMPASSION … the results would be proof.

How Did Hitler Rise To Power

“Hitler took advantage of the people’s anger by offering them a convenient scapegoat and a promise to restore Germany’s greatness”


sound familiar?

(also amazing graphics!)

Self-care isn’t apathy …

Self-care isn’t apathy … I’m sharing this article by Mary Elizabeth Williams, because it touches on more than one topic worth talking or thinking about …

You can read the full article at source  HERE

Self-care isn’t apathy: You don’t have to watch the whole Trump horror show

Let’s pace ourselves, America — overdosing on insanity is killing our spirit

Self-care isn't apathy: You don't have to watch the whole Trump horror show
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Nope. I didn’t see it. Not live, as it unfolded, not Friday morning, as the spin kept rolling in. I have my limits, and my limit is voluntarily watching Donald Trump officially accept the Republican nomination for president of the United States. And over the next few months, I promise to not watch a whole lot more.

It’s not that the alarming spectacle that played out this week in Cleveland can be ignored. It’s not that we all don’t have a profound personal stake in the utterly terrifying agenda of Trump ticket. It’s this — you can’t immerse yourself in round-the-clock crazy and not go a little mad yourself. You can’t, as someone wisely said on Twitter recently, “constantly stare at a device that beams nightmares” into your eyes and not wind up “anxious.” And if you, this often bizarre and heartbreaking summer, sometimes decide to choose Pokémon Go over Make America Great Again, I totally get it.

Granted, I have the privilege/curse of working in the media, which means that I get heaping eyefuls of current events in my workday. By the time many of my friends come home in the evening, eager to catch up on the news, I am slumped at my desk and trying to pick my jaw up off the floor. There’s no part of kicking back and taking in even more upsetting words and images at that point that sounds even remotely mentally healthy.

But even if your 9–5 involves piping roses onto wedding cakes, can I still offer a little friendly advice? Pace yourself here. Remember that self-care is not apathy, and that sensory overload isn’t social justice. It’s estimated Americans consume roughly ten hours of media a day. And 33 percent percent of Americans — a full third — say that they follow the news all throughout the day. That is an overwhelming amount of information to take in — especially when a fair amount of that information involves a paranoid yelling person. Last fall, I attended an all-day event for journalists sponsored by the Dart Center, an organization for journalists who cover traumatic events. One phrase one of the event leaders mentioned has stuck in my mind ever since — “We spend our days consuming human distress.” And that is simply not a normal, natural, healthy, or — and this is important — sustainable — state of being. So on Tuesday evening, I was at “Ghostbusters.” The world didn’t need me to watch the trainwreck.

On Friday morning, my Facebook feed was neatly divided between friends who’d watched the Trump show and had a lot to say about it, and those who admitted they couldn’t bear to watch it. One person expressed that she couldn’t, but she was grateful to those who did, to bear witness. As for me, I oscillate between understanding the need to remain vigilant and also feeling pretty played when Trump ridiculously boasts that “Good news is Melania’s speech got more publicity than any in the history of politics especially if you believe that all press is good press!” It often feels like a losing proposition to consider how much the very worst people in the world truly feed off our attention — even when that attention is pure disgust. I remind myself that we do not have a moral responsibility to participate in all of it and we certainly don’t have one to passively look at it. I remember that someone once reminded me, “You don’t need to go to every argument you’re invited to.” You don’t need to go to every political disaster either.

The conservative monsters have now created an unwinnable game for the rest of us. We ignore them at our peril, we watch them at the risk to our emotional well-being. All I can do is try to keep my own scales in balance. That means: going outside in the world and not looking at my phone. Talking to other normal, functioning human beings. Cooking. Listening to music. Hugging my kids. Because those things are not distractions from reality; they’re reality, too. If all I see is madness, all I lose is hope, and hope is the thing I need most right now. And I’m not going to make it to November if all the voices in my head are the enemy’s.


Mary Elizabeth Williams

Mary Elizabeth Williams is a staff writer for Salon and the author of “A Series of Catastrophes & Miracles.”


4 minutes of a break 🙂

Tom Waits Movie

I love his stuff … simple as that … many happy memories of my youth …


Cowspiracy, taken from Youtube .. an interesting educational (?) watch ….,

Love and coconuts,

Lila xo

Multi-Tasking Damages Your Brain

As part of my teacher training in Restorative Yoga, with Judith Hanson Lasater, we were given a number of articles that I found really valuable.  They were research-based articles relating to the rise of chronic stress, insomnia and disconnection that is becoming a bit of a world-wide phenomena, and sadly sort of becoming the new normal.

There was a short one titled “Multi-tasking Not Smart”, and addressed the common presence of multi-tasking in society, and how it can actually lower your IQ.

I’m never sure quite how to raise it with friends and colleagues who talk about how good they are at multi-tasking like they should be patted on the back and applauded!  My initial response in my head is “nooo don’t do that to yourself”!!!  But I usually say nothing as I’m still learning how to present ideas in scientific research without being concerned with sounding like a know-all, haha!  Oh, and actually remembering statistics and things to back my spiel up!!  🙂

And anyway, science, like everything, is ever-changing, so maybe I’m better off practising quietly!

 But I will share here, that way you can follow up on the research yourself if you’re skeptical, or if just reading this doesn’t make some basic sense to you.

For me I do know, that as a way of getting stuff done, I am a CRAP multi-tasker!  I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve read some of this research and that’s now in my head so I don’t want to be good at it, or whether I’m genuinely a poor multi-tasker.

As someone whose equilibrium tends to be easily knocked out of balance if not mindful (hello VATA!), I believe that multi-tasking messes with my head and inner-calm.  Whilst I know I can do it when I need to, and I actually can look like I’m very good at it if I want to, I try to reserve it for necessity rather than making it part of how I do things.

At work – my desk job – I have to do it as part of my role.



I will admit I can get a bit of a buzz out of it,

as it involves dealing with people too, so there is the performance side to it!  But far out, I get completely exhausted by it!!  (More Vata imbalance)

I guess that’s why I really enjoy doing meditative things like colouring in colouring books, yoga practice and mindfulness meditation, things that involve using my hands and focusing on one thing at a time, and practising that.

And it can be quite challenging.

Have you ever been driving along or doing something and had the radio on, only to realise after a while that you really do not like what you’re hearing!  This happens me sometimes – and I’m like “what is this  s h i t  I’m listening to”!!!?  It’s because I’m doing more than one thing at a time – for some of that time I am not conscious of one (or more) of the things, but they still have an effect on me.

Honest admission #2: sometimes it happens vice versa – I’ve got some brilliant audio book or podcast on and I’m not sure if I’ve just gone through a red light because something I just heard was so bloody profound, all perceived reality to date has just fallen away!

So to counteract this kinda stuff, I try to be a bit more conscious.

How?  Well, if I’m going to turn the radio on in the car, I try to do it consciously, not out of habit, and accept that something might have to give along the way!  Or, I might go to punch the radio button on, and then stop to ask why?  Do I need some company?  Am I trying to fill space, or is there something I really want to hear?

What about driving in silence (as if my head would not be like a radio all in itself anyway hahaha!).  Well, sometimes I do it.  And it’s rather pleasant.

Anyway here is an article from Forbes Magazine, talking about how Multi-Tasking Damages Your Brain.  (Warning: It may raise more than one thought in your head at anyone time.)

You’ve likely heard that multitasking is problematic, but new studies show that it kills your performance and may even damage your brain.

Research conducted at Stanford University found that multitasking is less productive than doing a single thing at a time. The researchers also found that people who are regularly bombarded with several streams of electronic information cannot pay attention, recall information, or switch from one job to another as well as those who complete one task at a time.

A Special Skill?

But what if some people have a special gift for multitasking? The Stanford researchers compared groups of people based on their tendency to multitask and their belief that it helps their performance. They found that heavy multitaskers—those who multitask a lot and feel that it boosts their performance—were actually worse at multitasking than those who like to do a single thing at a time. The frequent multitaskers performed worse because they had more trouble organizing their thoughts and filtering out irrelevant information, and they were slower at switching from one task to another. Ouch.

Multitasking reduces your efficiency and performance because your brain can only focus on one thing at a time. When you try to do two things at once, your brain lacks the capacity to perform both tasks successfully.


Read the full article here

The darkness in every one of us

I just read this and wanted to share it …. I found it compelling and profound, and really quite stirring ….

The darkness is in every one of us

The author of ‘This House of Grief’ and ‘Joe Cinque’s Consolation’ on writing about darkness

We Are Stardust!

YES!!  Did you ever think about that … WE ARE STARDUST!

I guess the ancient yogis were quantum physicians ….

The other day in my yoga class, when the students were in Savasana, I felt an immense sense of connection, a hug from the universe if you like, and I heard this loud, clear and confident voice in my head ( it was me! ) telling me to remember this:


When life throws it’s curve balls …

I didn’t realise when life starts going all nonlinear, how easy it is to just completely forget all the stuff I intellectually and experientially know and have learned and practiced over these last few years.

It just gets emptied out of the pot in one big gloop, like thick, chunky soup and all that gets left are the BITS THAT STICK TO THE SIDE OF THE POT – old gooey patterns and burnt bits of behaviours that don’t serve anyone.

Never saw that coming!  

I thought it had it all figured out and would know what to do and how to respond when the world of matter and form closed in with all it’s free gifts of fear and anxiety!

Anyway, guess that’s really when we’ve got to knuckle down to ‘the work’  … and I have to acknowledge that perhaps for the first time in my life, I’m grateful for the opportunity to turn towards and sit with the challenges, instead of running away from them.  And grateful too for the mental, spiritual and physical strategies, and support with which I am truly blessed.

It’s bloody hard work, but isn’t it funny how sometimes, that which you think is the object of all your problems, can be the very thing that holds all the solutions.

Or more precisely, if objectively studied, can turn out to be the map and toll fare for the roads that will lead you in the direction of the City-Of-Resolving-The-Issues-All-By-Your-Own-Self!! 🙂

I feel such a great sense of relief, comfort, inspiration and excitement, when I can remind myself of what I feel I already know at such a deep level (the energy / spirit part) , and just keep forgetting (the human part) … and it’s little videos like this one, that for me, are the markers on the road that get me on my way again, with my wholesome soup in my backpack, all set once more for the trip!! 🙂

“The fact of the matter is, the substance of the universe is consciousness …” 

Thought it was time to share it with you.


              Love always, 

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PS.  I wonder if I had read THIS book when I was a child, if it would have made it all a little easier now?!

You Are Stardust

This innovative picture book aims to reintroduce children to their innate relationship with the world around them by sharing many of the surprising ways that we are all connected to the natural world.

Grounded in current science, this extraordinary and beautiful book provides opportunities for children to use their imaginations and wonder about some big ideas, and is available HERE at Pure-Li Marketplace.

Who’s Fault Is It Anyway

I am a great admirer of Brené Brown and a fan of her work … it resonates deeply with me and my learned behaviours.

I am familiar with this story, but here is a cute animation to go with it from the RSA, (who do some really cool stuff!).

Hope you enjoy it, don’t blame me if it irks you!